Blue in the Sky

A lesbian wife and mother tries her hand at something new. Surely there is a hat that fits out there somewhere!

A Visit to the Groomers Thursday July 31, 2008

Filed under: Daily Life — The Professor @ 5:41 pm

I finally broke down recently and agreed that a hair-cutting schedule that gets me touched up less frequently than most people’s pets is not workin for me.  So….. I made an appt for a cut and wait for it, wait for it, here it comes …….

COLOR!  Real professional color!  I can still hardly believe it.  Since my favorite colorist (aka Bella’s Mama) is hours away, it’s high time I found someone local.  So, I did.  I took the plunge today and I’m happy with the results.  I feel like I’m on the set of my very own hair commercial.  If only I could scrounge up some fans…

So, the significant news is that in order to get the layers just right, she flat-ironed my hair.  All of it.  My hair has never met a flat iron.  My hair has never spent more than a moment in a straightened state.  Feeling all of this straight hair moving around my face is a strange, new sensation and one that seems really distant from my childhood of sitting patiently while someone (usually Mom) attempted to get a brush through all of my craziness with the help of No More Tangles.  So, Mom I’ve captured the moment.  I feel sure it will never be this straight again….



A Musical Interlude Wednesday July 30, 2008

Filed under: Music — The Professor @ 8:24 pm

The end of the summer semester is here and things have gotten busy.  But…… I had a fabulous time at the beach and Toad survived her race.  I’m working on getting some pictures from her brother and hope that some will be post-worthy.  More to share on all of that.  Music has been on my mind quite a bit lately, so I think a little musical interlude makes sense.  If any of these folks strike your fancy, give them a listen.

Do you like folksy, lyric-driven stuff?  If so, you’re sure to love….. Chris Pureka



Do you like the name of this blog?  Then check out Mr. Joe Purdy playing the first verse in London.



Do you love Amy Ray as much as I do?  Probably not, but you should still check out one of her solo tunes that’s been resonating with me a lot lately.  And check out the pants.  Nobody can dress quite as poorly as Amy.  It’s a real gift 😉



It’s almost the weekend!! Friday July 25, 2008

Filed under: Daily Life — The Professor @ 12:06 pm

It’s a great morning in my part of the world and I’m taking advantage of it. 

  • No classes on Friday
  • Cool temperatures and open windows (Gadget is in heaven)
  • A good book and a cup of coffee
  • Reflecting on an exciting new career development
  • Looking forward to the weekend

Both of us are getting ready for the weekend.  Looking forward to the very different experiences we will have.  Toad is gathering materials like CamelBaks, BodyGlide,  and the right running shorts.  I am collecting swimwear, sunscreen and flip flops.  Yup, my girl is hopping on a plane to New York this afternoon to join her brother for an adventure race weekend.   I am heading to the beach with some new friends. 


I expect that Toad will be getting herself in situtations that look much like this,

while I will be getting myself in situations that look more like this.


It’s true that relaxation comes in many forms.  Hope your weekend is a good one!


I DO Love a Circle Monday July 21, 2008

Filed under: Wedding Planning — The Professor @ 2:15 pm

Have you ever thought about what shape you are? And I don’t mean what kind of shape you are IN, but rather which geometric shape you are.  Bet you didn’t think you had a geometric shape, did ya?  Well, perhaps you do.   As a psychologist, I’m a little shamed to admit that I find silly internet quizzes fun and almost informative, but I do. If you share this view, click here and find out your shape.  You can click on View All Results to read descriptions of the other shapes.  Leave your shape in the comments if you want to play along.  Come on…. you know you want to!  😉

I am very much a circle.  Words like harmony and connection and intuition just make me feel good and I see my life through a kind of circular lens.  Always looking for relationships between ideas and people.  It’s the way I think and process the world.  So……. I had a very happy circle moment yesterday in a conversation with Toad and our minister.

We were meeting with him to discuss the ceremony and the conversation could not have gone better.  First, he gave us a packet of information (I also DO love an info packet) that began with a letter outlining the distinction btw religious marriage (blessing by a minister of a specific faith tradition) and civil marriage (blessing by the state) and explaining that he officiates only religious marriage ceremonies and does not sign any paperwork as a representative of the state.  So, if he can’t confer special rights (hospital benefits, health insurance, estate taxes, etc) to all couples, then he won’t do it for any couple.  He goes on to ask straight couples (who will have to go through the courthouse process in addition to the religious ceremony process) to explain the reasoning to their friends and families.  How great is that?!!

The rest of our time was spent  talking about our relationship, why we are (collectively and individually) making this decision, what our thoughts about raising a family are, etc.  We talked about different faith traditions.  We talked about humanism and transcendentalism.  It was a fabulous conversation and I was thrilled to be having it in a church.  To be acknowledged and understood and challenged.  All at once. 

I have struggled with religious identity since I was a teenager.  I grew up in the Episcopal church and I loved it.  I loved the rituals, I loved the community, I loved the ethic of asking questions and thinking deeply about things that really matter.  I didn’t love the official policies of the church as they relate to gay people.  I continue to believe that most of the people that align with that tradition do not hold the views that the church espouses, but where does that leave me?  Well, for years it left me outside of organized religion.  And then in a conversation with Toad’s parents, the idea of the Unitarian Universalists came up.  It struck both of us at just the right moment I guess and we decided to give it a shot.  I’m so glad we did.

So, back to the circle.  Right in the midst of our conversation, I was struck with the realization that this man (the minister) has the same name (first and last) as my childhood priest.  What is the probability of that?  That the man who will be blessing my relationship shares a name with such a key figure in my childhood and adolescence.  This was a man who drove me to school in a rickety red pick-up truck every Wed AM after the youth held morning prayer.  He sat with us when one of our friends died in a motorcycle accident.  He encouraged me to think for myself and trust my own voice.  He hung a huge picture of Jesus Laughing in the narthex and I loved him deeply.  I DO love a circle.


Starr Bright & Agent Hollywood Sunday July 20, 2008

Filed under: Daily Life — The Professor @ 12:20 pm

Have you ever been invited to a murder mystery party?  The wife of one of Toad’s cycling buddies invited us to Margaritaland to celebrate her husbands birthday last night and we had a blast.  She arranged all of the details though an internet business ( that provides all of the support materials (names, roles, story line, objectives for each guest, evidence, etc).  A very cool idea.

A few weeks back we received our roles and costuming suggestions in the mail.  I was cast as Starr Bright – a rising Hollywood star with a drinking problem.  Toad was to be Agent Hollywood – savvy business professional who sees $$ with Starr, but has to work hard to keep her btw the rails.  I was thrilled with the casting choice!  A few days ago we got a newsletter from Margaritaland (a resort) that provided a little info about how things have been going in paradise.  What we learned was that Starr had recently fallen into the pool and was rescued not by Sam the Lifeguard (who was mysteriously missing), but by Jack Daniels, the bartender.  Last night was the resort tiki party and all of the guests (there were about 20 of us) were invited for a BBQ.

 All of the costumes were great and everyone got into their roles.  The birthday boy’s grandparents had been cast as the paparazzi and they stalked me relentlessly all night asking me what I was drinking.  I was desperately in love with Jack Daniels (the bartender) who I trailed throughout the evening while Agent Hollywood talked me up to everyone and tried to ensure I wasn’t drinking.  About halfway through the night, the murder took place and it was Jack.  Found dead in the bathroom.  The party was sealed my Sgt Lord and no one could leave.  Everyone was questioned and it was ultimately revealed that Sam the Lifeguard was to blame. 

What a funny night.  The only pics I have so far are from our pre-party photo shoot.  I hope to have more from the party soon.  Even the dogs had costumes…. 



Putting up Peaches Saturday July 19, 2008

Filed under: Daily Life — The Professor @ 3:43 pm

If you live in Mississippi (which I don’t), it’s that time of year.  I was talking to my Mom this morning and she was elbow deep in peaches.  When I caught up with her yesterday, she was in the same shape.  The girl has managed to round up ALOT of peaches.  This AM Mom and Dad had a breakfast of biscuits and fresh peaches (probably on their back porch) and I missed it.  Damn geography!  Miss you guys.



And in the land of wedding updates (this is for you Mom) ;), the following progress has been made:

1. Invitations have been ordered and only moments ago….they arrived!

2. Toad has selected and had preliminary conversations with a tailor.

3. Tmw we have a meeting with the minister at our church about the ceremony.


Why must work be so intrusive? Tuesday July 15, 2008

Filed under: Daily Life — The Professor @ 9:15 pm

I have spent the last few days treading water on the university front and trying not to drown. While teaching two summer school classes is good for the bank account, it’s not all that good for the soul. It’s hard to make time for the important things like reading books, surfing the net for wedding dress possibilities and catching up on The Colbert Report. As much as I whine about the pace, I’m a much happier and more well-balanced person when my dance card is full. It’s true. I like to be busy. I get more done when I have more items on the list than I could possibly check off. And, the real truth of the matter is that I absolutely LOVE to teach. I love it. I get so much energy from my students. Unfortunately, teaching requires preparation. It’s the preparation that blows. Particularly if you are me and you have left your true discipline (psychology) and migrated to the dark world of business. Yes, I’m still talking about the same kinds of things, but I’m doing it in a business school. It’s been a year now and I still can’t really believe that. Sometimes, when I’ve kind of forgotten and then suddenly I remember, I just can’t stop laughing. It’s really too much.