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The Third Week of July Wednesday July 28, 2010

Filed under: Daily Life,Movies and TV,Music,Pregnancy,The Wife & Mother — The Professor @ 6:16 pm

I’m running a little late this week, gotta get it down before I forget…

The major event of the week (one that I am sure not to forget) was our OB appt and subsequent scan.  It’s official.  Bean is breech.  Stubbornly, unlikely to turn, likely to require c-section, breech.  Lovely.  Surprisingly (at least to me), Toad is handling this news more gracefully than I.  Something about this pregnancy has lulled her into a go-with-the-flow, Type B kind of a vibe.  Me?  Not so much.  I’m still working the Type A pretty hard and I’m thinking this baby better start behaving.  Everyone in the know seems to think that I am unlikely to get what I want.  Let this parenting gig begin…

On Wednesday we met with our new attorney who will be guiding us through the 2nd parent adoption process.  I knew it was going to be a great match when two of her dogs greeted us at her office door.  The meeting just got better from there.  All three of us hit it off and by the time we left her office, we had a date.  Also….. she has two daughters who are prime babysitting age.  Score!

And the date that we had, was with this lady:

And yes, she was wearing leather pants when we saw her as well.  Somehow neither Toad nor I have ever seen Melissa Etheridge in concert, until our friendly local attorney invited us to dinner and a show.  Fun!  I wasn’t kidding when I said the people here are friendly.

The only activity of the week that did not bear some relationship with the baby was the movie Inception.  Humm….what to say about this movie?  Interesting.  Considerably better than Knight and Day.  If the structure and function of dreams is something you find compelling, you should probably see it.  After all, it does include these two:


Supta-Vajrasana AKA Fixed Firm Pose Friday July 23, 2010

Filed under: The Runner — The Professor @ 3:01 pm

For reasons that I do not understand, this pose is the scariest pose for me.  It has been that way from Day #1.  This is not to say that it is the most physically demanding, but that it is the most emotionally demanding.  I can feel the coming of this posture in my heart rate.  As the posture before it winds to a close, my heart starts racing.  Getting into this position puts my body into full-scale “I’m going to die!” panic.  This sounds (and is, I guess) dramatic, but my response is truly this strong.  I have to really trust, to get into this position.

What’s so odd about this, is that the pose looks like this:

It is not a pose that anyone warns you will be emotionally vulnerable.  There is no unprotected exposure of the jugular as in Ustrasana Camel Pose.

And there is certainly no dizzy, I’m going to topple to my mangled death unbalanced-ness that accompanies the back-bending portion of Half Moon.

So why does sitting with my tail btw my ankles and my feet pushed flat into the ground terrify me?  It is the weirdest thing.  The panic intensifies the more my feet flatten; that feels like the physical source of it.  I guess it will just be a mystery.  Or maybe, in a former life, I had some terrible experience involving breaking my feet.  You never know….. 😉


Little Beauties (Kim Addonizio)

Filed under: Books,The Reader — The Professor @ 2:30 pm

I had never heard of this author or this book, before I saw the cover at the library.  I could only find a small image, but the cover that I saw and that drew me right in, looked like this:

I loved the look of it and when I realized that it was about both OCD and pregnancy, I picked it right up.  The book follows three primary characters who are brought together in a mostly implausible set of circumstances.  The first is a 30-something former kiddie pageant phenom (Diana) who life has been fairly consumed by obsessive-compulsive disorder.  The second character is a pregnant teenager (Jamie) and her unborn baby (Stella) is the third.  A fairly odd cast.

I enjoyed Diana the most, likely bc she was by far the most fully drawn.  Jamie, the pregnant teen was pretty flat and while I like the idea of an infant narrator, it didn’t really work so well.  Much of what Stella thought was pretty out there.  Of course, I have no idea what an infant might think about, so perhaps it was right on.  Who knows?

Overall, it was a fun read.  A little weak in places, but an interesting idea.


Houstons Veggie Burger – My Copycat Attempt Monday July 19, 2010

Filed under: Food Glorious Food,The Chef — The Professor @ 8:58 am

I have always loved the veggie burger at Houstons.  I’m going to take a shot at it myself.


  • 4 tablespoons hickory barbecue sauce
  • 1 tablespoon molasses
  • 1 (15 ounce) can black beans, drained
  • 2 cups cooked brown rice
  • 1 tablespoon oat bran
  • 2 tablespoons onions, finely chopped
  • 1 tablespoon finely chopped canned beets
  • 1 teaspoon beet juice
  • 1 teaspoon chili powder
  • 1/4 teaspoon ground cumin
  • 1/4 teaspoon black pepper
  • 1 teaspoon kosher salt
  • 1 tablespoon pickled jalapeno peppers, chopped
  • 1 egg whites, add more if needed (to bind)
  • 2 teaspoons olive oil
  • 4 slices monterey jack cheese


  1. Stir together barbecue sauce and molasses. Set aside.
  2. In a large bowl, mash beans. Stir in 3 tablespoons of the barbecue mixture (reserving remaining for brushing) and remaining ingredients — rice through egg white. Form into four 6 oz patties.
  3. Heat olive oil in a cast iron or non-stick skillet over medium. Grill burgers for 2 minutes on one side. Turn and brush with remaining barbecue/molasses mixture. Top with Monterey Jack and grill for another 2 minutes or until cheese is melted.
  4. Serve with lettuce, tomatoes, pickles, onions and mustard on a bun.  A little avocado might be a nice touch as well.

The Second Week of July Sunday July 18, 2010

Filed under: Daily Life,Movies and TV,Pregnancy,The Wife & Mother — The Professor @ 2:19 pm

This week our new place actually started feeling like home.  The beginnings of comfort and familiarity.  This makes me SO happy.  I love comfort and familiarity. 😉

So, what were we up to?

During the early part of the week Toad spent some time doing things like this:

No, it’s probably not best for a woman in her 8th month of pregnancy to be playing on ladders, but hey… this is Toad.  The girl stops for no one.   I had my place in all of this of course and together we painted one wall of the dining room Seven Seas blue.  Toad wishes it were a few shades darker, but I think it’s quite nice.  As for Casa de Bean, all we lack is Bean his/herself.  The car seat arrived and Toad got it installed in the car in spite of temps in the high 90’s.  Since I knew I couldn’t talk her out of doing it, I just made sure she had lots of water for the effort.  We also got the baby monitor installed and it was fun to test it out a bit.   I am LOVING the lambs and in their final form they look like this:

The lambs are cute and the nursery is fabulous, but my wife is suddenly really being clubbed by this baby.  She has enjoyed an uneventful and fairly easy pregnancy, but in the last week or so the tides seem to be turning.  At least as far as “easy” goes.  She is always uncomfortable, she pays pretty dearly for absolutely every thing she eats (no matter how small the meal), there is NO space in her bladder, it’s hard for her to breathe and she’s started to itch.  Lovely.  I’m looking fwd to our OB appt next week.  I’m starting to wonder what’s going on here.  It’s probably all normal, but it’s such a shift from how she has felt.

On the social front, we’ve enjoyed two meals with friends.  We met the Jasper’s (W & M) at an Italian place where we INHALED a delicious pizza and gelato (one scoop of coffee and one of whipped cream).  Yum!  I will certainly be back.  Toad will work with M and I really like both of them.  W is also a psychologist who left academia and is now a SAHM to an almost 2-year-old.  If you can believe it, she is also pregnant and due just days after we are.  Yup.  We have alot in common and I’m looking fwd to getting to know them both.  Last night we met the Wisons (G &L) at our new favorite burger joint.  This place is GOOD and in walking distance from our house.  G & L also have an almost 2-year-old  and are pregnant with #2.  They are due late in February.

Happily, I’ve found a fabulous new hair guy.  His name is Lewis and I like what he did for my hair.  More importantly though, I love him.  He was thrilled to hear that I have a wife and a baby on the way and gave me lots of recommendations for everything from realtors to coffee shops to people we should meet around town.  I also got a good suggestion for someone that could cut Toad’s hair.  I think Lewis would irritate Toad as he is super spazzy, but I think he’s great.

Lastly, in preparation for Bean we decided to go to the theater for an animated movie.  Neither of us are big kid movie fans, but we’ve got to get ready.  We saw Despicable Me and now I want one of these:

I wasn’t really expecting much more than some air conditioning and a little popcorn, but I thought it was fun.  If I had read much about the movie I would have known that I would like it bc I LOVE the lovable grump.  Bottomline, it’s worth the money.  At least matinée money.


A Big Part of Writing is…. well, Writing Friday July 16, 2010

Filed under: Daily Life,The Writer — The Professor @ 1:46 pm

If you want to develop yourself as a writer, you’ve got to write.  It’s not something you can really avoid.


So, back to the page I go.  Again.

I’ve been refreshing myself with The Artist’s Way and reminding myself of the importance of Morning Pages.   Julia Cameron (the creator of the book) describes the Morning Pages in this way:

“Morning Pages are three pages of longhand, stream of consciousness writing, done first thing in the morning. There is no wrong way to do Morning Pages– they are not high art. They are about anything and everything that crosses your mind– and they are for your eyes only.”

I know one thing about these pages for sure.  I know that I feel more balanced when I wake up to the page.  I’m not so sure that it will ever mold me into a fabulous writer, but it might make me a calmer, happier person.


Bend it Like Bikram Thursday July 15, 2010

Filed under: Daily Life,The Runner — The Professor @ 1:41 pm

The Runner is on sabbatical.  It’s July and the heat index routinely exceeds 100 degrees, so obviously it’s time for hot yoga.    😉  Yup!  The Yogi is back in town.

I have found a studio that is a short, easy drive from the house and is super clean.  I am loving the clean factor.  Unlike my old studio which was carpeted (yuck), this place has a floor that is mopped after each class and is not porous.

If you’re wondering what happens in a typical hot yoga class, I thought I would show you.

This, my friends, is the Standing Floor Bow.  I wish I could tell you that I can get (and stand comfortably) in this pose, but that wouldn’t be true.  I try to get in this pose and that’s what it’s all about.  Process.  Process and patience.  Classes are traditionally 90 minutes (although my studio offers some shorter options) and ultimately focus on the breath and moving the body into a series of 26 postures.

The class opens and closes with exercises focused primarily on the breath.  In the middle of all that breathing is a series of Standing exercises (stretching and balancing focused) followed by Floor exercises (spine strengthening and stretching focused).  The ratio of Standing to Floor is about 60:40.

It’s been quite a while since I’ve been in the yoga game so my first week of classes has been rough.  Lots of sweat and shaking muscles and LOTS of soreness.  Strangely though, I love it.  Looking forward to more.